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RHOM S3, Episode 11 (Season Finale)

By May 1, 2016RHOM Blog


Blood is thicker than water and my family is the most important people in the world to me. My sister and I grew up super tight and we shared the tiniest details of our life with each other. We spoke to each other on the phone everyday.

Gillian and I have never fallen out prior to this and that’s what makes it so foreign to us. When we had a disagreement last year, we both reacted to each other in a way that was uncommon to us.

I pulled away because I don’t like arguing with my sister as I have always looked up to her and she has always protected me, if needed. I have been loyal and by her side at the drop of a hat and she has for me. I can forgive my sister for the harsh words spoken because I know she was angry and upset with me that we had drifted apart for a few months, but I am not going to pretend that it has not hurt me severely.

My sister has apologised profusely and I know she is very remorseful and distraught by her unkind words towards me. I have also looked at myself and I am able to reflect and understand. I have no issue in apologising if I am wrong.

Even though it was unpleasant at the time, our love and tight bond of my 51 years of been in my sister’s life can withstand our little tiff like a drop in the ocean. We are in a great place now.


I was invited to Lydia’s mum Lena’s birthday prior to the Glasshouse incident with Lydia and decided I would go as I am a woman who stands by her word and for the good times and old time’s sake.

I was happy to see Gina even though she nearly took my eyeball out at the Glasshouse. I don’t know if I have a high tolerance for these women and grown a thick skin or if I really don’t let it bother me to a point that I forget what they say and do. Gamble and I are smooth sailing at the moment and I will try not to rock the boat.

The party was spectacular in true Lydia fashion. The reaction on Lena’s face when the donkeys arrived was worth every bit of that donkey act.

We sit down to a scrumptious lunch and Gina does not miss a moment to announce to Lydia’s brother that she has been on Neighbours and Celebrity Apprentice. Oh Lord talk about monkey praising its own tail. Heard it. Heard it. Heard it.

Lydia thinks I have issues with her. I am only stating a fact and she should not get so sensitive about it. I find she flicks me off in a trivializing manner behind my back with her statements.

While we stood around discussing the issues surrounding Lydia’s gossiping, something popped into my mind that Lydia told me in my first season about Chyka and the penny dropped. I realised this is what the girls were all talking about and I was super silent and listening to what everyone was saying.

However I did not run to Chyka with this gossip, so I still think it was wrong for Jackie to divulge this to Chyka. This is how you hurt friendships because she has now spread it to everyone. If I have something to say, I tend to say it straight to that persons face even though it gets me into serious trouble. As much as I think Lydia should come clean and admit to spreading some gossip, Jackie is equally guilty.

It was interesting to watch Jackie give Susie a reading. I am not sure if the angels were talking to her or the producers, however I am not one to judge someone’s career. If Jackie is here to help people, she will help anyone under any circumstances including me and not on a case-by-case basis.


Some of the girls are invited to Gina’s Perfume launch and we are going to support her.

No doubt Gamble is super excited and can barely contain herself, she is completely high on perfume fumes and very cheeky, I like this side to Gamble we bring out each other’s fun personality. I can own my behaviour and I was truly sorry for what I conveyed to Lydia and I felt it was the right time to apologise to Gamble. It was nice to have that cutesy moment with her, a friendship without fights will do for now.

Lydia arrived not too long after and I had made up my mind to treat her with the same love and respect as before, it is easier for me to be happy than angry and I choose happy. I don’t think Lydia can comprehend what a supportive and loyal friend I have been to her.

Lydia says, referring to me, “she wants me to be a friend the way she wants me to be”.

Lydia does not get the definition of being a good friend. It’s sad that Lydia will not change her understanding of friendships and takes a swipe at me instead of looking at how she conducts herself.

When Lydia gets cornered with the truth she clutches at straws and comes out swinging with false allegations. Lydia is just repeating what the other girls say to get out of the hole she has dug for herself. Its like monkey see monkey do.

Friends support each other without expectations because that’s what good friends do.

Gina makes a grand entrance and takes the stand; it is inspiring to see other women succeed. I am very proud of Gina for all that she has achieved.


Gina joins us girls at the table and somehow my blue lipstick turns to naughty talk, I knew it wasn’t going to be missed, but I did not expect it to go there. The mood was very light hearted and the conversation was flowing with ease.


Even though Nathan has moved out of home he visits home very frequently to have a chat and give me a hug. I love that we have such a strong bond and share quality time together. Note: I am surprised my décor seen on screen is from last year, I have replaced my upright piano with the baby grand and my cushions have been undated as seen in the episode with my sister.

Nathan is concerned about my treatment by Lydia and understandably does not want to see me hurt he feels that I should cut the friendship off. Lydia had my utmost loyalty and she blew it, I find it very difficult that she has been so dismissive of me even more so behind my back.


Finally Chyka and Lydia catch up and Lydia gets confronted about the gossip she has been spreading about all the girls for a long time, however Lydia is not having a bar of it, I do agree with Lydia that their friendship has changed since Jackie has joined the mix. Jackie is the catalyst in this whole explosion. I am happy they can move forward with their friendship.

Jackie confirms that her friendship with Lydia has no chance of recovery, she says: “Lydia is a very malicious person, and to go around spreading rumours, that can affect peoples families, relationships is so disgusting, so outrageous that I cant be friends with someone like that”.

Lydia and Chyka join us, however Jackie is not ready to let go and enjoy the night, she questions them if anything was said about her and with fists clenched she challenges Lydia to discuss it right then and right there. I smell trouble brewing and I knew we were in for a bumpy ride.

Lydia calls Jackie out on been a liar. I was half expecting Jackie to jump over the table and punch Lydia. She gets very defensive when she gets called a liar, almost to an unrealistic point. The people who preach the most are as guilty as sin. I have said it many times before and I will say it again and again and again that Jackie lies, so lets get that very clear. They are both a joke accusing each other of lying.

Jackie is now furious, her eyes are darting around her sockets and she is pulling all sorts of faces with her elbows on the table and takes her rage up another notch.

“You were out f***king blabbing your lips about other people, this one’s partner tries cracking on to you, this one’s partner is a f**king weirdo, this one’s a sex addict, this one had affirms because she had money because of her man, this one’s family is A, B, C, D & E, and you f**king tried to crack on to my husband.”

As I said before Lydia likes to repeat gossip, but some of the things Jackie was saying, I had never heard before in this group of women at all, so I don’t think there is much truth to all of what Jackie is saying.

I can’t keep up with the fighting, now Susie and Lydia are at each other. Someone here is a blatant liar, it is a joke how they seem to deny their history together, and we actually couldn’t help but laugh.

Jackie now wants to talk the real sh** and it is quite comical that Lydia mimics’ her.

But what came out of Jackie’s mouth was so damaging, even her friend Chyka was horrified that she would stoop so low, we were all dumbfounded as she continues her destruction of Lydia and her marriage. She breaks girl code and has no proof.

During their friendship, Jackie had no issue joining Lydia and doing whatever they were doing in (his) room, but now that things are soured with their friendship, she has no problem revealing Lydia’s secrets. They are huge allegations and can have severe repercussions on Lydia’s marriage. In my opinion what Jackie is doing is malicious, home wrecking and destroying a friend’s trust, everything Jackie has accused Lydia of doing. How can anyone trust Jackie in confidence ever again?

Her current behaviour has predicted to me what her future behaviour will be, so I am not telling her anything period. Jackie looked furious when Lydia and Chyka walked in and announced that they had resolved their issues, I don’t think she likes anyone sorting friendships and moving forward, I remember she had a problem when Gamble and I hugged it out after our drama. Perhaps she does not like Lydia getting close to Chyka. No matter what her motive may be, I think it is very distasteful and damaging to Lydia’s reputation for Jackie to announce to the world about infidelity.


I wish Lydia would stop defending herself and own her gossiping. I am done with trying to help and support her, she sucks as a friend and I am over her  using me to release the anger and frustration that she has towards the other women.


Can’t wait until the reunion!


  • Warner says:

    That’s why I never liked Jackie. She is trying too hard to belong that’s why she has a problem with anyone getting close ho Chyka.
    Jackie is jealous, uncouth, white trash. She should be sent to charm school to qualify for season 4

  • I really like you Pettifleur’. I did from the very first season you appeared in.
    Like Jackie, I’m a Psychic, but unlike Jackie I’m a genuine Psychic/Medium and I come angel and bullshit free.
    Jackie is too spiteful to be someone that deals with the spirit world . Her reading of Susie was fake and she clearly has been given information or looked it up herself .
    Anyway, I wanted to tell you that I empathise greatly with you and tell you how badly I’ve felt seeing the way you have been bullied to death this season.
    Someone like Gina who is in the legal realm should know she is crossing s dangerous line legally in the way she in particular played God and dictator all in one shot.
    I think you are extremely confident and it grates on the a group of insecure spotlight seekers . Which is how I see most of those women .
    People love to break someone’s spirit, it’s as if taking someone’s pride is the ultimate trophy . It’s an intangible quality that once taken from you builds up the person that took it. They have not been able to break you and it’s a reflection of your integrity that you have stayed strong enough to withstand their attacks.
    You remind me of me in some ways, no real family and always being disappointed by people who don’t understand or respect your ideals when it comes to friendship , like you I will put myself in the firing line for a friend, only to be blown off as insignificant the day you have been . Or seen as too needy or demanding of how dare you expect bathe friendship returned in kind!
    That’s always been my problem too
    We are the same age, I relate so much to who you are, except you ended up being everything I wished to be but could not.
    Life’s bern very hard I was homeless with a child at 14. They taught me about fighting and loyalty that means you stick by those you care about no matter what . I see this in you too and these are rare qualities
    I know you are the victim of some horrible online opinions and comments, I wanted to be one person who said something that was positive and heartfelt .
    I’m a stranger but everyone is at some point in life, that doesn’t mean my words are irrelevant .
    I see on my Facebook page everyday how the smallest things can make a difference to someone .
    I admire you Pettifluer. You’re a beautiful intelligent loyal woman and it’s their loss if these superficial women don’t understand you.
    PS, I can also write lengthy posts like you do so please excuse this one being an essay ,
    Take carel Pettifleur
    Michelle Xxx

  • Marlene says:

    Pettifluer, your hair looked beautiful last night. Can you please tell me how to get your look, I have very long hair, but want to style it like yours Thaks

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