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RHOM S3, EPISODE 10

By April 24, 2016RHOM Blog

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Friendships are Shattered…

I have no doubt that Lydia was feeling dejected after the dreadful confrontation at dinner by the brat pack. I know what it feels like to walk in those stilettos, so I went over to give her some love and support.

We discussed Jackie’s flip-out where she condemned Lydia of maliciously gossiping, ruining families and spreading a so-called rumour about Chyka. None of us seem to know what they are babbling about except Jackie, Janet and Chyka. If they don’t tell Lydia what she has gossiped, how can they expect her to own up to it? I have been in this very situation and it isn’t fun.

As far as I am concerned, Jackie’s accusations are vicious, harmful to friendships and have no merit. She heartlessly condemns everyone, but gets away with being the biggest culprit of them all. Unfortunately, Chaka has taken Jackie’s bait and let a long-standing friendship slip away. Congratulations Jackie. #divideandconquer

As Lydia admitted, she does speak about the girls – we all know that – but I don’t see it as malicious or trying to ruin families. However, Jackie is out for conflict and ruined three dinners in Dubai by attacking me and now Lydia.

Arriving with Lydia

I accompanied Lydia to the bridge suite and hoped we could all indulge in some beautiful jewelry and put a smile on our faces and not a frown.

Chyka was feeling very hurt, whatever Jackie told her made her really infuriated with Lydia. It’s time to shut up Jackie. Stop the destruction of friendships.

If what Jackie is saying has any truth to it, why did she not have a problem with Lydia’s malicious gossip for the last two years?

On couch 1

Judging from the tension in the room when we walked in, I could sense they had been discussing Lydia. She was feeling awful that none of the other girls had reached out to support her. I am not surprised. This is quite the norm in this group of women.

It was heightened by the fact that Chyka and Lydia were wearing similar dresses.

Looking at mirror 1

The exquisite jewellery came out and it was all smiles. I tried on the $4.2 million Sapphire and Diamond necklace and earrings. As much as it felt awesome to wear something of that value, I can’t say I would get a lot of pleasure wearing that price tag on me.

I felt compelled to talk to Jackie about her part in instigating the rupture in their friendship.

I am not surprised that Jackie did not take any responsibility, nor did she attempt to repair the damage.

Instead she said, “I don’t go and gossip to other people about something that somebody says to me. Never have, never will.” Does Jackie believe her own lies? She just did.

Yes it has everything to do with you Jackie. Has Jackie forgotten she gossiped to Chyka about what Lydia told her for over two years in confidence? She is like Pinocchio. The only problem is that she does not have a Jiminy Cricket.

Jackie was wondering why I was injecting myself into other people’s business. Jackie may not understand this concept, but it is called helping friends and getting resolution. My intention to help this issue was cut by Lydia joining the couch.

They bailed and Jackie spat out an insensitive comment saying Lydia is not my friend. “You’re not a friend to her.” Should I be offended or should I be questioning my friendship with Lydia? Time will tell.

 

Yellow dress outside

All the girls were beautifully frocked up for Chyka’s event at the Glasshouse. My dress received some negative attention and some green-eyed envy by Gina. I did not realise wearing yellow represents a fruit bowl. I am finding the digs I get behind my back to be fascinating. It’s quite flattering.

Considering Gina is so ostentatious, it’s quite rich coming from her. I felt fierce and fabulous, so the sarcastic comments didn’t bother me.

Janet and Jackie interrogated Lydia to ascertain if she had spoken to Chyka.

Do these women ever stop stirring trouble? Didn’t I hear Jackie say No Drama? #allfartnoshit

I am a loyal friend and I am not going to tolerate Lydia getting cross-examined again in a bitchy manner by a couple of mean girls. I asked them to leave her alone.

The women came down on me like a ton of bricks and Jackie takes an insipid dig at my dress. Ha-ha! It just confirmed how envious she actually is and not so spiritual.

Susie jumped at the chance to take a swipe at Lydia and yelled at me for supporting what’s right. I don’t understand why none of these grown women can see that their behaviour is appalling when they single out one person and attack.

I am not oblivious, I know exactly what’s going on and I am not blindly supporting Lydia; I am doing what any sympathetic person would do in a situation like this.

I was not surprised at Gamble and Gina jumping down my throat for pointing my finger at Susie, completely ignoring that fact that Susie was yelling at me.

Mabaker in my face

Gina said she doesn’t go into peoples faces, yet she did the opposite and had no qualms in pointing her finger and getting right in my face in a threatening stance like Ma Baker. I am not sure how Gina values friendships when she behaves in an unfair and unladylike style.

The moment Chyka walked in to say a quick hello to us, Jackie’s path to destruction was clearly not over, and she pulled her aside to compare Lydia’s story.

While I put myself in the firing line and took all the bullets for Lydia, she stood back and watched me getting roasted. I have been in many sticky situations with this group of women and Lydia’s interest to support me has been pretty dismal.

Allow me to give you a snap shot of all the times I could have really done with Lydia’s support.

I got roasted by all the women about Gamble’s wedding invitation, Jackie was rude to me at Byron when she barged into my conversation with Lydia and took over, again I got hit by Jackie at Luminare, insulted at the Ossiano dinner, I was ganged up on at the desert dinner, I was attacked by Janet at our final Dubai dinner, and now I find myself protecting her and I still receive no support whatsoever from Lydia.

When Lydia was ganged up on at the Dubai dinner I became her sounding board and gave her lots of support instead of pointing a finger.

I am not sure if Lydia knows the true meaning of supporting a friend or if she is too scared to put her neck out for me and get her head chewed by the other women.

I don’t regret my loyalty towards Lydia as a friend, even though the other girls have issues with it. Nevertheless, I was feeling pretty hurt and I’m wondering if my loyalty and friendship is reciprocated.

Setting the girls up at dinner

 

I decided to ask Lydia directly why she finds it difficult to support me ever. Lydia’s answer was dreadful. She did not hear me nor understand my feelings at all, and instead she went on defending her behaviour and condemning and ridiculing me. She was quick to yell at me and mocked me on head to camera in a Muppet voice, and calls me a squirrel. Gee Lydia, thanks for the friendship.

I was trying to reason with her on the disproportion of our friendship and I was gob-smacked and totally disheartened when she turned on me with so much hostility and rage and to make matters worse, she told me to shut up, called me a f**king idiot, told me to f**k off at the top of her voice and in doing so, dragged the other women into the dispute.

My instincts kicked in and I left the table with my head held high and my morals intact. I was done with the drama.

Shocked t Lydia

I’m not sure if Lydia did not like to be confronted with the truth or if she did not want to take responsibility for her actions. Disappointed.

I have come to the conclusion that I am the dartboard and every time someone takes aim they are going for the bull’s-eye.

Thanks for reading.

Lots of Love

Pettifleur xxx

2 Comments

  • Lorraine watts says:

    I can no longer watch the shows Pettifleur
    It is exactly that. They seem to think it’s fine to hurt you and behave the way they have. Birds of a feather stick together. You aren’t one of them thank God. I am in awe of your courage and determination and wonder how much can you take. They are jealous and have labelled you the black sheep the scapegoat and its cowardly wrong. Take care my dear friend xxx

  • Suzanne says:

    WELL I AM SO GLAD THAT YOU HAVE SEEN AND HEARD THE TRUTH .THIS GROUP OF WOMEN ARE THE NASTIEST BULLYS EVER . CHYKAS GIRL LOOSES HER LICENCE , THEN DOSNT BOTHER GOING TO COURT , WOW SO WELL DONE WITH HER UPBRINGING .JACKIE AND JANET GINA AND GAMBLE ARE A DISGRACE TO WATCH THEM ….THEY ARE JUST SCHOOL YARD BULLIES AND SO NASTY ! PETTIFLEUR I HOPE YOU WALK AWAY FROM THIS SHOW AND TAKE LYDIA .THESE KIND OD BULLIEA ARE ON TV EVERY NIGHT , AND THESE SO CALLED TUFF WOMEN ARE NO DIFFERANT ! GAMBLES STEP SON COULDNT BE ANY RUDER , BY SAYING HOW HE HATED MOST OF YOU AND YOU WERE ALL JUST FUCKING BITCHS.TIS TIME THIS SHOW WAS MADE ACCOUNTABLE FOR THE DISGRACE THAT IS AIRED. I AM SO OVER THIS NASTY MEAN PACK OF WOLVES
    SOME ONE HERE WITH MORALS .SUZY..

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